Waiting is a sign of true love and patience. Anyone can say ‘I love you’, but not everyone can wait and prove it’s true.
My husband and I had been friends 7 months when he told me he liked me. We were both 23 at the time. Funny enough, I had already known he did. He didn’t do a good job hiding it. J (my husband) is the kind of person that wears his heart on his sleeve. It was very obvious in how different he acted around me compared to other girls. Even funnier still, I began to like him too. Maybe it was all the attention he gave me or how easy it was to talk to him. Whatever it was, I had to admit to him that I liked him too. It was only fair.
The problem was that I was going to be leaving on a cross county trip with some people in another month and a half that would last the entire summer. I didn’t want to start a relationship that would only be strained by distance so soon. After hearing my reluctantancy to make it official, J ultimately expressed understanding.
He then promised that he would wait for me.
Part of me rolled my eyes. Growing up in the Bronx, I’ve witnessed enough of a man’s ego to believe that was highly unlikely. Pssshh! Yea right! But I let him talk the talk and decided to let time tell if he would walk the walk.
Due to certain circumstances of my trip I rarely ever talked to him. Close to three months into my trip, a friend managed to reach my cell phone. We were catching up on each other’s life when we got into talking about J. They told me that he was still waiting for me.
Seriously?! That was something new I never expected a guy to do. It was obvious to me right there that this guy was not like any guy I’ve ever known. He was a man of his word and really “liked” me enough to wait for me.
This was not the only time he has waited for me. My trip got extended longer where I had to be stationed in Maryland for a while. Well this guy again waited but only long enough to make a road trip from South Carolina all the way up to Maryland to come and see me for the weekend to ask me out, again.
How could I turn him down again after the lengths he was gone for me? I said yes.
That was 2006. We got married summer of 2008 and we now have a one year son. We love each other more and more with every passing year.
Every year I am so thankful he waited.